audit 3: backup CLI, envelope budget, directory sync, docs; findings of the reviews

Steps 3-6 of stage 3 and what the two reviews found in steps 1-6, in one
commit: the review fixes sit in the same hunks.

Step 3, CLI backup (M3, M5, L1, L2; L4 of the stage's list):
- backup.snapshotDB refuses a database that is not there and opens the
  source mode=ro (measured: mode=ro creates no file).
- selfpost-backup holds an encrypting password to
  validate.MinSecretFilePasswordLen; -o of both directions writes a
  temporary file beside the name and renames it whole; -decrypt peeks the
  first chunk (password and type authenticated) before the output exists.
- what a backup leaves out (a link under data/, a link under certs/ to a
  directory, a socket...) is told to OnWarn; certs/ with no file is
  backup.ErrNoCerts, refused by Check and Create, named by the panel.
- parseTrustedProxies: a bare address takes /128 when written with a
  colon (::ffff:10.0.0.1/32 was ::/32).
Step 4, secretfile (M4, L3): scrypt's V at most 128 MiB, r <= 64, p <= 2;
bytes after the last chunk are ErrCorrupt.
Step 5 (L7): atomicfile.SyncDir after the rename, used by Write,
replaceSASLDB and the CLI; atomicfile_test.go.
Step 6: security.md and guide on backup and restore.

Reviews (technical, security):
- H1: a restore of a server with DMARC on was refused on every start - the
  archive records no owner, tar as root left the DMARC maps root's, and the
  entrypoint only chowned the maps it named. It now hands every file beside
  queue/ in /data/postfix to panel:selfpost 0640; e2e writes an extra map
  before the backup and finds it panel:selfpost 640 after a root unpack.
- the comparison reads regular files only (Lstat, size, LimitReader); a
  record unpacked again wins over the earlier check's mark; ConsumeRestore
  removes both; the mark is synced; a journal file beside a freshly unpacked
  database is refused.
- AttachRefusalLine refuses an empty line as the old statement did; skipped
  entries named in words; -decrypt of an empty payload is no failure; guide
  wording on the shell's '>' and a killed CLI; the in-place restore's
  'mv .' (older than this stage) fixed.

Tested on the test server: go vet + go test of 25 packages, make e2e (all
pass, 643 s) on this tree.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

internal/app/sasl.go

@@ -12,6 +12,8 @@ import (
 	"path/filepath"
 	"strings"
 	"sync"
+
+	"github.com/mixeme/selfpost/internal/atomicfile"
 )
 
 // SASLDB manages the Cyrus SASL account database (sasldb2) the panel maintains
@@ -118,10 +120,7 @@ func replaceSASLDB(path string, edit func(path string) error) error {
 	// loss may bring the old database back, out of step with the panel's
 	// records (review of stage 2c, F10). A directory that cannot be synced
 	// - not on every system - leaves the change as durable as before.
-	if dir, err := os.Open(filepath.Dir(path)); err == nil {
-		_ = dir.Sync()
-		dir.Close()
-	}
+	_ = atomicfile.SyncDir(filepath.Dir(path))
 	return nil
 }